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How to Find Out Her Ring Size Without Asking

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How to Find Out Her Ring Size Without Asking

Thinking of proposing but don’t want to spoil the surprise? You’ll need to be sneaky about getting her ring size. But how do you get an accurate measurement without raising suspicion? Here are some tips for determining her ring size without setting off alarm bells.

Sneak it into a Conversation

If you have the nerve, consider smoothly asking for her ring size in a casual conversation. Just be careful not to give anything away. One idea is to say you’re thinking about buying a ring for your sister or mom but are having trouble figuring out their size. She is likely to give away her own ring size during the conversation. If not, you could ask her to tell you her size to help you get a better idea of what the other person’s size might be.

If that seems too risky, try to get creative with your conversational topics. There are a lot of ways to execute this tricky maneuver. Just be sure you can engage in a conversation that feels natural and won’t leave her feeling suspicious.

Have Someone Else Ask

If you have someone you can trust, consider having them ask her ring size. This can be a lot easier and less stressful than trying to sneak the topic into a conversation. A friend asking about her ring size is far less obvious than if you were to ask. She's unlikely to suspect that you asked someone to get in on a proposal. This will allow them to gather the all-important info in a more direct way.

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Bear in mind, this technique will work best if your accomplice uses tact. If they bluntly ask what her ring size is, odds are you will receive a more accurate answer. The more direct they are, however, the greater the risk. Be sure you choose someone who knows how to be somewhat discreet, or they could end up blowing the surprise.

Practice Patience

Choosing an accurate ring size is a key step in the jewelry buying process. An improperly sized ring can be uncomfortable and, in certain instances, difficult to resize. The best way to ensure that a ring fits is to get an accurate finger measurement using a finger-sizing gauge. Unfortunately, this act is liable to raise suspicion in most instances.

If you ask your fiancé-to-be to accompany you to a jewelry store to have her finger measured, alarm bells are sure to go off. One way to avoid this is to put some time between the measurement and the proposal. For example, maybe you go to a movie and then do a little window shopping. Casually suggest that the two of you enter a jewelry store to look around, and then have her finger measured in case you want to buy her a gift at some point in the future.

Even if she suspects something, these feelings are likely to pass if you wait a few weeks or months to pop the question. You could even follow through with your excuse by purchasing her a fashionable designer ring or other jewelry piece as a gift to help throw her off a bit.

Err on the Bigger Side

It really isn't that big a deal if you need to get an engagement ring resized in the days following your proposal. If you don't have an exact measurement, however, it's always best to size up. This is because downsizing is less complicated than expanding a ring’s size. Since a jeweler will need to use more material, it will also usually cost more to make a ring larger than it will to reduce its size.

A jeweler can usually resize a ring in just a few hours. If a ring is especially delicate or has an intricate setting, however, it may take a few weeks.

Try not to Stress

While we all dream of a magical proposal, perfection isn’t an achievable goal. In most instances, proposals are somewhat expected, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for some time. Generally, it’s the timing and circumstances of the moment that generate the greatest surprise.

Even if you ask her ring size, she will never know when the moment is coming. This can create pulse-quickening anticipation that conjures feelings of excitement which can actually enhance the entire experience.

Whether you choose to be direct or sneaky, try not to stress about getting the perfect ring size. If possible, bring the person with you to John Atencio and have one of our experts use a finger-sizing gauge to measure her ring finger size. You can also use our convenient ring sizing chart to help you get a better idea of her size.

If you’d rather guess to preserve the surprise, we can always resize the ring later to ensure a perfect fit. We can also show you how to select a stunning engagement design and match the right gem and precious metal. Make an appointment at a John Atencio location to talk to our attentive team of jewelry experts.

To learn more about how to get someone's ring size, be sure to read our blog post: How to Measure Ring Size at Home.