Why Choosing an Engagement Ring is Hard for Men…and What to Do About It
Popping the question is the easiest and the hardest thing you’ll ever do. You know it’s time to ask, but you probably don’t know when to ask, where to ask, or what type of engagement ring to buy. You’re not alone. Men typically have a tough time choosing an engagement ring that showcases their love for the woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
It’s natural to be anxious about making such a big purchase and then getting down on one knee. John Atencio is here to help you overcome that anxiety, buy the engagement ring of her dreams, and help you get the girl.
Why is Proposing Hard for Men?
Declaring your love for someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them is intimidating enough without having to ask them if they feel the same way with an engagement ring. Once you’ve decided to ask, you’re over one hurdle, and that’s honestly the easier of the two hurdles for men.
If you’re still not sure it’s the right time, ask yourself the following:
- Do you notice engagement rings and wedding bands more often?
- Is she the first person you call with good and bad news?
- Do you feel she loves you as much as you love her?
- Have you talked about marriage?
- Have you talked about the future together?
If you said yes to most of the above, you’re ready to pop the question.
The next hurdle is figuring out what type of engagement ring to give her with the options out there. Shopping for the perfect engagement ring isn’t easy; the choices seem overwhelming and endless. Do you start with price point? Do you look for her favorite gemstone? Do you go classic or custom? Do you even get an engagement ring? On to what you need to do about it.
3 Tips for Choosing an Engagement Ring She’ll Love
Learn a Little
You don’t need to be an expert to buy an engagement ring, but you’ll want to learn a bit about what she likes. Start by asking what her favorite type of jewelry is or her birthstone. Learn about her jewelry preferences and use that knowledge when shopping for a ring. While you’re learning more about her likes and dislikes, try and determine her ring size for future reference.
Set a Budget
After learning more about what she likes, window shop a bit and set a budget for an engagement ring. There’s no standard price range for engagement rings, it all comes down to what you feel is the right ring and the price tag that’s on it. If it’s outside a set budget, consider what you might spend down the line on a wedding ring for her and find a compromise. Or keep the ring in mind for a special occasion, such as renewing your vows at the ten or 25-year anniversary mark.
Visit jewelry stores in person for the best opportunity to see what you’re on the hunt for in person, hold it in your hands, and get a feel for potential engagement rings. Don’t commit to one jewelry store or brand; you’ll never know what you’ll miss otherwise. Shopping around not only gives you a choice, but it also may put your face-to-face with the perfect engagement ring for her you didn’t know existed.
Buying an engagement ring can be a spur of the moment purchase or something you spend a significant amount of money on. There’s no right or wrong way to buy an engagement ring, and there’s certainly no wrong ring to buy to declare your love. You’ll know it in your heart when you find it.
The tips above will help you overcome the indecision, anxiety, and uncertainty that comes with proposing and choosing an engagement ring. It’ll be the start of your life together, and the engagement ring you select will mark the beginning of that journey.
Listen to our podcast episode on what to look for in an engagement ring.